We continued our current relationship series this week at WNW. We began the night with a worship set that included: "Song of Hope" (Robbie Seay Band), "God is Able" (Hillsong), and "Arms that Hold the Universe" (Fee).
After a brief review of the previous week I got right into this week's silly love song. This week we watched a clip of the music video of the song "All My Life" by K-Ci and Jojo. We then looked at a couple of specific lyrics:
1) "I promise to never fall in love with a stranger"
Seriously? Is this even possible? No it isn't. Of course we thought about the recent situation with football player Manti Te'o. He supposedly fell in love with someone over the internet and it turned out that she didn't even exist. The truth is, he wasn't in love with her because he never met her. You have to meet and interact with someone before you can actually fall in love with them.
2) "All my life I prayed for someone like you"
Ok this seems to make a little more sense. There are plenty of verses in the Bible on prayer but we specifically looked at James 5:16. The first part says to "confess your sins to one another". This is exactly what we talked about last week when talking about honesty. It goes on to say in regards to praying for one another "so that you may be healed". Prayer brings healing as our will becomes aligned with His. Further on it says "the effective prayer...accomplish(es) much". The truth is that when someone is seeking God with their whole heart then their prayers will be extremely powerful. It isn't that they get what they want, but their prayer life aligns with the will of God.
So how does this apply to our marriages? First of all if he/she does not pray consistently then their relationship with God is not where it should be. A married couple should pray together, and must pray for one another. But what can these students do right now? Well they need to start, if they are not already, praying for their future spouse. I know that I am so thankful that my parents not only prayed for my future spouse when I was growing up, but they often told me that they were. I am so appreciative of that. I know that some of our students' parents are doing the same. Regardless if they are or not, the students need to make the commitment now to pray for their future spouse. So we talked about what not to pray for and what to pray for.
What not to pray for:
-A specific person. Don't do it! You will be glad someday when you walk through Wal-Mart and see that person and realize that you are blessed even more with who God gave you!
-A specific look. Don't be so shallow. The students laughed at this thought but we know ever girl dreams of a dark, tall, handsome man and all guys dream of a wife with smoking hot body. Don't pray for that.
-A specific income. Again don't be shallow.
-Anything else unreasonable
What to pray for:
-Their heart to be for Jesus. Pray that they are a Christ follower and that Jesus is Lord of their life and not simply a hobby.
-Their growth in Jesus Christ. Pray that they are seeking God in order to become the man or woman that He created them to be.
-Protection against temptation and evil. Pray that they are strong to remain pure. Pray for their safety against attacks from the evil one. Pray for their strength to overcome any temptations.
-Patience and contentment in the preparation time. I will share more in this area next week. But students need to think about this time of life as a preparation time for their future marriage. They need to pray that their future spouse will be content as they wait until the time that God places them to meet each other.
We ended the night with some application to this. I had the students spend a few minutes in prayer to process this thought and ask God to show them the things that he wants them to be praying about. Then when they were ready they got a sheet of paper and pen and wrote out a prayer. I closed by challenging them to make this a part of their daily walk with Jesus.