Thursday, February 17, 2011

Relationships by Design- Part 2

As we continued the Relationships by Design series, we took a look at the specific roles within marriage.  It is apparent in scripture that the husband and wife have different roles, but many times these are taken out of context.  We began the night by looking at Genesis 1:27 to make sure that we all realize that even though the husband and wife have unique roles within marriage, God created them equal.


We then split up guys and girls and took a look at these specific roles that are outlined in Ephesians 5:21-33.
The Role of the Husband:
1) Be Subject to One Another- Verse 21- subject as in the area of serving the other, not having authority over your spouse
2) Husband is the Head of the WIfe- Verse 23- this is not a dictator role.  Mainly this means that he is the spiritual leader of the home.  It is impossible to fill this role without relying on the Holy Spirit.  
3) Husbands Love Your Wives- verse 25, 28-30, 33- Paul mentions this multiple times so it is very important.  The word he uses for love is agape which means a love that only seeks the good of the other.  This is the type of sacrificial love that Jesus showed for us when He gave His life for us on the cross.  You can never love your wife enough.  By loving her it sanctifies her, brings her closer in her relationship with God.
4) Husbands Are to Lead Their Family- 1 Timothy 3:4-5- this is very similar to number 2 and is taken out of the qualifications for the deacon in a church.  However this is the type of qualifications everyone should follow, especially the husband.


Belinda taught the girls on the Role of the Wife so I do not have her notes but only the main points that she covered:
1) Be Subject to One Another- Verse 21- subject as in the area of serving the other, not having authority over your spouse
2) Be Subject or Submit to Your Husbands, as to the Lord
3) Respect Her Husband


As we ended the night we surrounded the students again and prayed for both them and for  their future spouses that they will become who God wants them to be in order to have a godly marriage.  I told them to look at the homework questions from last week and see if these roles may have changed their views on what they are looking for in a spouse and what they need to become as a spouse someday.  I reminded them that marriage isn't as much finding the right person, as it is becoming the right person.

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